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Grief can be compared to a wide river that must be swum across.

The Purpose of Grief

The mind, intricately wired for permanence, struggles to comprehend and accept loss. When something or someone cherished is gone, the mind, which has woven a tapestry of connections at multiple levels, must undergo a rewiring process. This is especially true of Love, a multi-layered emotion, that has woven its tendrils into countless aspects of a person's being - the sound of beloved footsteps, the timbre of a voice, a smile or laugh or meow or bark. Rewiring these connections to accommodate loss is a slow, arduous, and emotionally taxing process. Avoidance only hinders this rewiring, leading to stagnation and continued deep pain, always hovering ready to resurface.

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Grieving and rewiring the mind alters the attachment from presence to absence. While love endures, the intensity of loss diminishes, replaced by the joy of shared experiences. Positive memories emerge, guiding individuals toward the future. Only processed grief enables the cherished person's (or pet's) continued influence through fond recollections, offering guidance, happiness, and comfort. Conversely, unprocessed grief traps the mind at the moment of loss, hindering progress and usefulness.

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